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Success!Ezine
Volume 7 Issue 10 -- October 2010
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Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep
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Feature Article
Nominate Yourself!
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Copyright © 2010
Many people wait their entire lives to be asked to join a touted
organization, to be selected for key opportunities, or to occupy
prestigious roles in their profession or communities. They believe that
it’s up to others to assess their “value,” so they just sit back and
stew as they are overlooked year after year. Don’t be one of them.
Nominate yourself!
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Acknowledge Your Own
Value |
Reassure yourself that you probably are more than qualified for the
opportunities that are of interest to you. Of course it’s very flattering to
have others seek you out, but they don’t determine your self-worth. Reflect
on your many life experiences and accomplishments. Remember the high energy
and effort you put into activities that you take on. An organization will be
grateful to have you onboard. But you have to embrace your own self-worth
first.
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Document Your Successes |
Once you boost belief in yourself, chronicle your professional and/or
personal history with particular attention to the skills, talents, and
experiences that best match the role you would like to occupy. Assemble
testaments to your success that you have on hand. These may be copies of
letters of recommendation, certificates of appreciation, awards, or other
tangibles that document your accomplishments. You may never have to use your
“brag book,” but look at it from time to time to remind yourself of all
you’ve done and why you’re qualified for many of the exciting opportunities
that come up in the future.
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Take Action
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You have power. You have influence. Don’t wait for people to determine that
you’re worthy of an opportunity. Let them know today. Make your interests
known. Your colleagues probably will be more than eager to nominate you. But
if they don’t, do it yourself. Yes, this is shameless self-promotion, but so
what? What’s the worst that will happen? You may not be selected for the
role you seek, but at least you put yourself out there and gave it a try!
It’s great to be proactive and to pursue opportunities that interest you.
Don’t be afraid to promote yourself. You won’t always get what you want, but
decision-makers need to know about you -- so make sure that they do!
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist consultant in Fort Lauderdale, FL and is author of
Success Management: How to
Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success: Stop
It From Stopping You!
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Ask Dr. Webster...
Dear Dr. Webster:
My boss took us to dinner and I think I scored some good Brownie points but
my coworker says I talked too much about my personal problems. What can I do
now?
-- Don’t Want To Look Like A Flake
Dear Don’t Want To Look Like A Flake:
If you don’t want to look like a flake, don’t act like one. Keep your work
performance high and steady, and keep your mouth shut about your personal
problems. It’s great that you had the opportunity to dine with your boss,
but your boss is not your therapist. While most are pretty sympathetic about
life changes their employees may be going through, they’re running a
business. So keep this firmly in mind the next time you’re with your
boss, whether on an outing or just in the workplace. And unless your boss
brings the subject up, don’t draw any more attention to the fact that you
have “issues.” Tap the support of your friends to deal with all the troubles
you need to talk about. Better yet, visit the EAP or a therapist in your
community. It’s good to have a formal source of support and help solving
problems when they start spilling out no matter where you go, so make the
call.
-- Dr. Webster
Got a Question?
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Success Motivator
Dream the biggest dream for yourself.
Hold the highest vision of life for yourself.
-- Oprah Winfrey
Success Tip
The Higher You Go, the More
Your Problems Are Behavioral
At the higher levels of organizational life, all the leading players are
technically skilled. They’re all smart. They’re all up to date on the
technical aspects of their job….
That’s why behavioral issues become so important at the upper range of the
corporate ladder. All other things being equal, your people skills (or lack
of them) become more pronounced the higher up you go. In fact, even when all
other things are not equal, your people skills often make the difference in
how high you go.
From the book:
What Got You
Here Won’t Get You There
Marshall Goldsmith with
Mark Reiter
Hyperion, New York, 2007 |
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