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Volume 5 Issue 10-- October 2008
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Dr. Webster is author of Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There and The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You!

Feature Article
 

 Job Transitions Are Taxing

E. Carol Webster, Ph.D. 
Copyright ©  2008

Reduced corporate profits and shrinking public funding are causing both private and public sectors to cut jobs. People who never thought they’d have to worry about work are now wringing their hands and holding their breath as they wait to hear if they’re being shown the door. Many will have to move quickly to find new employment since jobs are not as plentiful as before and more time is needed to search. The loss of a job is stressful under any circumstances, but particularly when you feel you’ve devoted years of your life to an employer and now are out on the street. As with all bummers in life, take a deep breath, get yourself together, and take steps to move beyond this challenging time in your life.

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·         View The Crisis As An Opportunity to Make a Change

Instead of dwelling on the loss and looking for the exact same job to move into, take this opportunity to examine whether you’ve been doing the type of work that is most gratifying to you. Many people have fallen into a comfortable niche that pays the bills but may not be very rewarding emotionally or best suited to their personality. Since you are in flux anyway now, this is a good time to consider making a change. Most job search websites have career interest inventories that you can take to see the type of work you’d enjoy, and career centers and workforce offices have supportive forums and counselors who can help if you need more professional help. Certainly, you can always hire your own professional career counselor to obtain more intensive, extended help if you have the means. You may be pleased to find yourself heading in a new direction – one with greater promise of self-fulfillment at work and in your life than you’ve experienced thus far.

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·         Make Necessary Lifestyle Changes

While you are looking for work, don’t be afraid to make serious lifestyle changes. And everyone in the family and in your immediate social circle needs to get on the bandwagon too. A good part of the stress you feel is coming from financial worries, so anything you can do to rein in expenses will go far to calm your nerves. What many people find is that they can live with much less than they’ve grown accustomed to and this empowers them to consider a career change more seriously if they have been afraid to pursue a new line of work because they won’t make as much money. This is a good time to give it a try to see if your state of mind and overall feelings of happiness are greater. The dollar amount of life satisfaction? Priceless.  

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·         Treat Job Search Like a Job

By all means take some time to flop and reflect upon your state of transition, but then it’s time to get moving. Treat the process of looking for a new job like a full-time job – get up each day and spend your time focused on looking for work. This may be contacting search firms, preparing your paperwork, as well as directly networking with those who may be in a position to help you access opportunities. When you’re feeling stressed, it’s easy for fatigue to set in and for you to withdraw and feel you can do no more than sleep. Resist this no matter how weary you feel. Taking some action is going to help you feel better and your feelings of confidence and positive self-esteem will return as you feel you are moving closer to your next opportunity. If you just can’t seem to muster the energy, take advantage of any remaining EAP services available to you or ask them for a referral. You’re probably more depressed than you realize.

All job transitions involve some stress, but those that are involuntary are particularly taxing. Though it sounds trite, try to keep your thoughts hopeful and forward-looking, rather than bitter and bogged down in the past. There’s not much you can do about the past now, so conserve your energy and put your best efforts to getting into a more gratifying position in the future.
 

 About the Author: 
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist and speaker in consulting practice in Fort Lauderdale, FL and is author of 
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You!

 

Ask Dr. Webster...

Dear Dr. Webster: 

I’m working extremely hard to network so that everyone knows about my business. I've been everywhere and met tons of people but don’t see where it’s any good. I’m a regular reader of your column and you always push networking, but I’m beginning to wonder about this.

-- Better Off Advertising?

 

Dear Better Off Advertising: It’s clear that you’re feeling frustrated. I’m sure you’ll find plenty of company at any meeting of entrepreneurs. Running a business is tough. You have to have the temperament for it and a very strong ability to persevere with the type of activities you mention, such as networking. But just because you’re doing a lot of networking doesn’t mean you’re good at it. There are some people who are at every event in town talking to everyone who has a pulse – causing those in the room to want to head for the door before they get cornered by such individuals. Then there are others who make loads of contacts but don’t follow up with any – at least not in a way that reflects positively upon them. They may go through the business cards they’ve collected asking people they’ve met once for a lucrative contract, with absolutely no grasp of how unlikely this is to happen nor why it shouldn’t! They become resentful that people aren’t calling them back or accepting their invitations to do business together, and may even start telling them off or becoming sarcastic when they see them again. This is not good. If any of this sounds like you, you may do well to take a critical look at your tolerance for entrepreneurship. It’s not for everybody and many find that they do best by returning to traditional employment where their livelihood is not dependent on this type of stress.  If you’re determined to hang in there, do yourself a favor and get some business coaching. You’ll learn a lot about how to run your business, including which marketing strategies are likely to work best for you. But you’ll also gain valuable feedback about how you’ve handled the things you’ve already tried so that any problem behaviors, gaffes, or other missteps can be examined closely and corrected. Contact your local Chamber of Commerce, SBA Office, or other business organization for help or for a private referral if you prefer. Good luck!

 

  --Dr. Webster

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Success Motivator

I have forgiven myself; I’ll make a change. Once that forgiveness has taken place you can console yourself with the knowledge that a diamond is the result of extreme pressure. Less pressure is crystal, less than that is coal, less than that is fossilized leaves or plain dirt. Pressure can change you into something quite precious, quite wonderful, quite beautiful and extremely hard.

-- Maya Angelou

 

Success Tip

Crabs, Cranks, and Curmudgeons

 ...check whether the troublesome employee is in the wrong job…Is the person mismatched for the role they’re in, for the personality they have?...people with low people skills now in people positions. The CPA or analyst is now running the department. These are the very things that they were running away from—they wanted to work with numbers or machines—and all of the sudden they’re trying to create teams and foster teamwork, and they don’t have a clue...If this is the problem, get your curmudgeons some managerial training quickly—or transfer them to jobs that better use their skills.

From the book:

 Dealing with Difficult People
 

by The Results-Driven Manager Series
Harvard Business School Press, Boston, 2005

 

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