Success!Ezine
Volume 7 Issue 11 -- November 2010
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Slow down and take time to say “Thank you for your service!” to your family member, friend, or colleague who is in or has served in the military. Give a word of thanks to those in uniform you see during your day-to-day travels. Very few get any recognition, so it’s easy for those who devoted years of their lives to defend our freedom to feel neglected and unappreciated. Your show of gratefulness is guaranteed to please.

Those who are returning from active duty or who served some years ago still may be feeling the effects of their tour(s) of duty. Many have been traumatized by their experiences and still may be reeling from all they’ve been through. They appreciate having a job to return to and want to interact with everyone in a sociable and meaningful manner. But often they are dealing with issues that are beyond the range of common experiences. So, if they appear uptight or standoffish, we need to understand that they need time to settle in and readjust to civilian life and the traditional workplace again.

Put our troops on your radar screen. Take steps to help. There are plenty of opportunities to volunteer and, of course, you can donate to many causes designed to help those who are serving to keep us free. But sometimes the simple act of passing by your colleague’s desk to wave a warm “hello” is enough. Helping to organize the Veterans Appreciation Day event in your workplace is just fine. The point is to make an effort. Take some kind of action.

It’s easy to overlook our troops because they don’t draw attention to themselves or demand recognition. They simply go about the business of protecting us while they and their families pay the price. In some cases – the ultimate price. Do your part. Exert a little energy and show gratitude for the freedom we all enjoy because of them. 

 About the Author: 
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist consultant in Fort Lauderdale, FL and is author of 
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There and The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You!

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Dear Dr. Webster: 

It really bugs me that I work so hard to meet all the movers and shakers in town and they never lift a finger to help me. I’ve spent a fortune going to all the top events but don’t think I’m going to bother next year.

-- Not Getting Any Help

Dear Not Getting Any Help:

 I’ve gotten this question in many different forms over the years and my answer is still the same: Why should these people help you? People like to help and do business with people they know and like, not people who only show up once to get something. This doesn’t mean they won’t help you if you interest them in some way, but just showing up long enough to leave your business card isn’t going to get it.

 So, instead of giving up, review all the meetings and events you’ve attended and highlight those you’ve actually enjoyed. Start going to these regularly and give yourself a chance to get to know the people involved. You may find that people begin to advocate on your behalf as they learn more about you. Hang in there and give yourself time to develop more meaningful relationships with those whose help you seek.

 
  -- Dr. Webster

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Success Motivator

If help is given to us let us accept it, but let us not sit down and say nothing can be done until the rest of the world out of the goodness of its heart willing to grant us charity.

 -- Arthur Lewis

 Success Tip

Rule Six: It’s Always Show Time

People think that their coworkers and bosses are keeping score only on Game Day, not on practice days. Meanwhile, they are constantly on display, the scoreboard is always active, and they can dig themselves such a hole that even a spectacular performance on Game Day won’t make up for it…

The truth is, the importance of the way you handle yourself every day only increases as you move up in an organization. The pyramid narrows, there are fewer and fewer slots for promotion, and the competition for them becomes fiercer and fiercer. Little things matter even more, because your bosses are looking for ways to distinguish between you and your equally smart and accomplished peers.

From the book:

Career Warfare

 David D'Allesandro with Michele Owens
McGraw Hill, New York, 2004

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