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Volume 3 Issue 11 -- November 2005
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E. Carol Webster, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Fort Lauderdale, FL and author of Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There and The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You!

 

Feature Article
 

Coping with Disaster

Dr. E. Carol Webster
Copyright ©  2005

This is a time when there seem to be no shortage of disasters – from hurricanes, tornadoes, tsunamis, terrorist attacks to major acts of violence  - that play out before our eyes across the nation on television, in our cities, or perhaps even on our jobs. These phenomena make it difficult to feel safe and, thus, provoke all kind of emotional and physical reactions. As a manager, you must be mindful of this and be particularly sensitive to the fact that these types of events can take their toll on your staff even if they have not personally been the victim of such destruction. You must do this all the while wrestling with your own reactions to these same stresses and the possible need to recover from the crisis yourself if you have been a direct victim.

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Re-Establish Routine Swiftly

 As quickly as possible, try to re-establish routine for yourself and your employees so that there is some degree of return to “normalcy”. There are so many unknown factors going on in the aftermath of a crisis that it helps to have some things be predictable. If you normally have a meeting in the morning, try to keep that schedule in place if you can. If the coffee pot is normally perking when the office opens, dust it off and get it working again. It can be the little things that help your staff feel that life is settling down and that some of the uncertainty and chaos has ended. This goes a long way to restoring some sense of calm.

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Adjust Your Expectations

 Your employees will not feel like themselves, nor will you. Things will still feel a beat off so don’t look for perfection. Even though you may normally have a very high performing team, they are likely to be preoccupied about their own problems and may be just going through the motions at work. It’s hard to fully concentrate and excel at tasks when you’re fearful of what might happen next or have very tangible problems you have to fix at home before you can breathe a little easier. It’s wisest to adjust the performance goals for right now or skip them altogether temporarily until the workplace gets back to normal.

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Be Flexible

 While restoring order, routine and predictability in the work setting is important, try to remain flexible about some things. This is not the time to enforce the “no personal calls at work” rule or the ban on Internet surfing. Your staff needs to connect with family members and friends to assure themselves that all is okay. They also may need to procure tangible goods and services in order to get home and hearth back together again. For some, the magnitude of the problem may cause such preoccupation and need for time that taking leave or using flexible scheduling may be the best solution. For many, however, just having a little time to investigate options and make calls may do the trick. Provide information that helps your employees understand the latest status of the crisis and helps them to solve their problems. Allow the break room television to stay on, for example, permit radios, and schedule periodic meetings to share information and for “hand holding”.  This goes a long way in allaying anxiety and helping everyone to cope.

 Time Will Be Needed for Healing

 Recovery from disasters takes time. The workplace will feel different, and you will feel different – period. Call upon the resources of your company EAP and encourage your staff to make use of its services or other community resources. If you see that things are not settling down and getting back to normal, or if your EAP’s resources are limited, retain the services of a crisis management consultant. Many times these individuals are psychologists who specialize in disaster recovery and debriefing employees after critical incidents that occur both on and off the job. Their staff can help you tremendously and prevent the type of workplace meltdown that can occur following events that traumatize and disrupt the lives of you and your employees.

 About the Author: 
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Fort Lauderdale, FL and is author of 
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You!

 

 

Ask Dr. Webster...

Dear Dr. Webster: I had dinner on the weekend with colleagues who brought their kids along. We could hardly complete a full sentence because the kids kept jumping on the seats, throwing food and shouting. My colleagues seemed to think this behavior was cute and acted oblivious to most of it. It got so bad that the diners around us started ducking and fleeing to get away from these kids. I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to offend my coworkers but I couldn’t stand it. What should I do next time?

 -- Can’t Stand Wild Kids

 

Dear Can't Stand Wild Kids: The problem isn’t really with those kids – it’s with your colleagues. Parents who sit by while their kids are terrors are the ones to be scolded. They are abdicating their responsibility as parents to teach their children discipline and decorum even at very young ages when they can still be expected to exhibit some modicum of civilized behavior.

But, your observation that their wild behavior was viewed as “cute’ by their parents is often the crux of the problem. These parents mistakenly confuse rude behavior, such as butting into adult conversation or running up and down aisles as “precocious” and need help learning what is acceptable versus unacceptable behavior at various ages.

Unfortunately, it is not up to you to teach them parenting skills or to demand that they seek therapy, but you should feel free to tell your coworkers that you’d love to dine with them but that you realize their time and attention must be diverted when the kids are along – thus, lunch or dinner right after work would be a better choice.

 

--Dr. Webster

 

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Success Motivator

The hardest work in the world is being out of work.

 -- Whitney Young, Jr.

 

  Success Tip

Checklist for Conducting
a Disciplinary Conversation

 Before a Problem Occurs

Give credit when due.

If they’re consistently performing below your expectations, let them know.

Communicate company rules well in advance.

 When a Problem Occurs

Don’t act when you are angry.

Reprimand in private.

Probe to determine whether the problem is with the employee or with the working conditions.

Frame your complaint specifically, in terms of observed behavior.

Cite the business reasons behind a policy.

Gain the employee’s commitment to change.

Coach – but don’t counsel.

 If a Problem Remains

Issue an oral reminder.

Proceed to a written reminder.

Consider having the employee take a paid leave of absence.

Issue an ultimatum.

Terminate.

   From the book:

Dealing with Difficult People

 Chapter by Edward Prewitt

Boston, MA: Harvard Business School Press
2005
 

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