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Success!Ezine
Volume 3 Issue 11 -- November 2005
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E. Carol Webster, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist
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Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep
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Feature Article
Coping with
Disaster
Dr. E. Carol Webster
Copyright © 2005
This is a time when there seem to be no shortage of disasters – from
hurricanes, tornadoes, tsunamis, terrorist attacks to major acts of
violence - that play out before our eyes across the nation on
television, in our cities, or perhaps even on our jobs. These
phenomena make it difficult to feel safe and, thus, provoke all kind
of emotional and physical reactions. As a manager, you must be
mindful of this and be particularly sensitive to the fact that these
types of events can take their toll on your staff even if they have
not personally been the victim of such destruction. You must do this
all the while wrestling with your own reactions to these same
stresses and the possible need to recover from the crisis yourself
if you have been a direct victim.
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Re-Establish Routine Swiftly |
As quickly as possible, try to re-establish routine for yourself and
your employees so that there is some degree of return to “normalcy”.
There are so many unknown factors going on in the aftermath of a crisis
that it helps to have some things be predictable. If you normally have a
meeting in the morning, try to keep that schedule in place if you can.
If the coffee pot is normally perking when the office opens, dust it off
and get it working again. It can be the little things that help your
staff feel that life is settling down and that some of the uncertainty
and chaos has ended. This goes a long way to restoring some sense of
calm.
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Adjust Your Expectations |
Your employees will not feel like themselves, nor will you. Things will
still feel a beat off so don’t look for perfection. Even though you may
normally have a very high performing team, they are likely to be
preoccupied about their own problems and may be just going through the
motions at work. It’s hard to fully concentrate and excel at tasks when
you’re fearful of what might happen next or have very tangible problems
you have to fix at home before you can breathe a little easier. It’s
wisest to adjust the performance goals for right now or skip them
altogether temporarily until the workplace gets back to normal.
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Be Flexible |
While restoring order, routine and predictability in the work setting
is important, try to remain flexible about some things. This is not the
time to enforce the “no personal calls at work” rule or the ban on
Internet surfing. Your staff needs to connect with family members and
friends to assure themselves that all is okay. They also may need to
procure tangible goods and services in order to get home and hearth back
together again. For some, the magnitude of the problem may cause such
preoccupation and need for time that taking leave or using flexible
scheduling may be the best solution. For many, however, just having a
little time to investigate options and make calls may do the trick.
Provide information that helps your employees understand the latest
status of the crisis and helps them to solve their problems. Allow the
break room television to stay on, for example, permit radios, and
schedule periodic meetings to share information and for “hand holding”.
This goes a long way in allaying anxiety and helping everyone to cope.
Time Will Be Needed for Healing
Recovery from disasters takes time. The workplace will feel different,
and you will feel different – period. Call upon the resources of your
company EAP and encourage your staff to make use of its services or
other community resources. If you see that things are not settling down
and getting back to normal, or if your EAP’s resources are limited,
retain the services of a crisis management consultant. Many times these
individuals are psychologists who specialize in disaster recovery and
debriefing employees after critical incidents that occur both on and off
the job. Their staff can help you tremendously and prevent the type of
workplace meltdown that can occur following events that traumatize and
disrupt the lives of you and your employees.
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Fort
Lauderdale, FL and is author of
Success Management: How to
Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success:
Stop It From Stopping You!
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Ask Dr. Webster...
Dear Dr. Webster: I had dinner on the weekend with colleagues who
brought their kids along. We could hardly complete a full sentence because
the kids kept jumping on the seats, throwing food and shouting. My
colleagues seemed to think this behavior was cute and acted oblivious to
most of it. It got so bad that the diners around us started ducking and
fleeing to get away from these kids. I didn’t say anything because I didn’t
want to offend my coworkers but I couldn’t stand it. What should I do next
time?
-- Can’t Stand Wild Kids

Dear Can't Stand Wild Kids: The problem isn’t really with those kids
– it’s with your colleagues. Parents who sit by while their kids are terrors
are the ones to be scolded. They are abdicating their responsibility as
parents to teach their children discipline and decorum even at very young
ages when they can still be expected to exhibit some modicum of civilized
behavior.
But, your observation that their wild behavior was viewed as “cute’ by their
parents is often the crux of the problem. These parents mistakenly confuse
rude behavior, such as butting into adult conversation or running up and
down aisles as “precocious” and need help learning what is acceptable versus
unacceptable behavior at various ages.
Unfortunately, it is not up to you to teach them parenting skills or to
demand that they seek therapy, but you should feel free to tell your
coworkers that you’d love to dine with them but that you realize their time
and attention must be diverted when the kids are along – thus, lunch or
dinner right after work would be a better choice.
--Dr. Webster
Got a Question?
Ask Dr. Webster
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Success Motivator
The hardest work in the world is being out of work.
-- Whitney Young, Jr.
Success Tip

Checklist for Conducting
a Disciplinary Conversation
Before a Problem Occurs
Give credit
when due.
If they’re consistently performing below your expectations, let them know.
Communicate
company rules well in advance.
When a Problem Occurs
Don’t act
when you are angry.
Reprimand
in private.
Probe to determine whether the problem is with the employee or with the
working conditions.
Frame your complaint specifically, in terms of observed behavior.
Cite the
business reasons behind a policy.
Gain the employee’s commitment to change.
Coach – but
don’t counsel.
If a Problem Remains
Issue an
oral reminder.
Proceed to
a written reminder.
Consider having the employee take a paid leave of absence.
Issue an
ultimatum.
Terminate.
From the book:
Dealing with Difficult People
Chapter by Edward Prewitt
Boston, MA: Harvard Business School Press
2005
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