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Success!Ezine
Volume 4 Issue 3 -- March 2006
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E. Carol Webster, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist
in private practice in Fort Lauderdale, FL and author of
Success Management: How to Get to the Top and Keep
Your Sanity Once You Get There and The
Fear of Success: Stop It From Stopping You! |
Feature Article
Bounce
Back From Being Bounced
Dr. E. Carol Webster
Copyright © 2006
It can be
quite a blow to be fired from your job. We all like to think
we’re fabulous and can master any position. But sometimes
it’s the case that people successfully talk themselves into
jobs that are not for them. After a few weeks or months, it
becomes apparent that there is a mismatch and that it’s time
for the individual to go. Handling this rejection is tough
for even the hardiest ego. No one likes to feel like a
failure. But it’s best to accept the fact that things are
not working out and that it’s time to move on.
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Accept
That It’s Over |
When all signs point to the fact that you’re in over your
head, concede defeat and accept that perhaps you jockeyed
into a position because it offered a great salary and
benefits, but you really didn’t have sufficient
qualifications to handle the job. If you can’t take a crash
course quickly and get all the skills you need to master
this job or don’t have a mentor or coach to see you through
the minefield, then its time to bail out – gracefully.
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Put Your Energies
Into Finding A New Job |
It’s natural to want to defend your honor and reputation
when you’re lacking in a job, but resist this temptation.
Let it go. This job is not for you and the energy you’ll
spend trying to defend yourself will be better spent finding
better employment. Consult with a career counselor about the
best direction for your future and let placement
professionals help you find good opportunities. There are
alternatives out there, so don’t feel trapped.
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Come Out Of The
Closet |
When things aren’t going well, it’s understandable that you
want to withdraw and hide out. Fight the fear and force
yourself to go out instead. This is a time to mix and
mingle, and to make sure people know you’re on the market
and exactly what type of job you’re looking for. Don’t leave
it to them to guess. Spell it out and be sure to follow up
on any leads you get.
Bounce Back
Termination is ugly. There is no way to feel good about
being fired. But understand that the outcome of being
fired can be positive if it forces you to consider different
work options and motivates you to take a new job that
showcases the best in your talents and abilities. Enjoy the
new opportunities and don’t look back.
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Fort
Lauderdale, FL and is author of
Success Management: How to
Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success:
Stop It From Stopping You!
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Ask Dr. Webster...
Dear Dr. Webster:
I started my business recently and have been e-mailing people to help me
with various things. I’m pissed off that they don’t answer half the time or
blow me off with excuses. What’s a new business owner to do?
-- Stalled
Start-Up
Dear
Stalled Start-Up:
Be glad
you’re getting any response. Technology helps us all tremendously but
don’t assume people want to be bombarded by your e-mails – especially if
they didn’t give you the address in the first place. Just because you can
access people easily and directly by e-mail doesn’t mean you have been
invited to do so. It is very likely that some of the people you’re
reaching don’t want to be reached and, thus, they’re intentionally ignoring
you.
Remember, you
are engaging in a form of networking. You shouldn’t expect to be offered a
lucrative contract the first time you meet someone. So why would you expect
to intrude upon someone by e-mail and get a great result? Step back a bit
and take the time to build meaningful relationships. Use traditional means
to write to people. Explain yourself and what you want. Explain why they
should help you. Do the work necessary to get the response you want.
Talk to
prospects on the phone. If they don’t answer your letter or return your
calls – take a hint. Maybe they’re truly not interested or perhaps you have
to work harder on building relationships. Don’t take liberties and assume
that simply because you can access people directly that they’re compelled to
deal with you. They’re not. And, you may just alienate them by your
intrusiveness.
--Dr. Webster
Got a Question?
Ask Dr. Webster
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Success Motivator
The pretense of wealth prevents the accumulation of real wealth.
-- Nathan Hare
Success Tip
Behavioral
Risk Management
Employee Risks
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Problems
associated with excessive work demands or high job stress. |
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Job-related problems resulting from an imbalance between work life and
family life. |
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Employee
negligence, indifference, or premeditation that poses a safety risk |
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Violence
perpetrated by or on employees in the work setting. |
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Lawsuits
filed by disgruntled employees. |
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Sabotage
and theft. |
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Conflicts
due to racial or gender disharmony. |
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Problems
arising from employee alcohol and drug abuse. |
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Malingering by employees on disability health insurance or workers’
compensation. |
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Behavioral
healthcare utilization. |
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Preventable physical illness among employees and dependents. |
Organizational Risks
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Poor
internal communications |
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Lack of
management-employee trust and cooperation. |
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Lack of a
supportive organizational culture. |
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Lack of
supportive programs, services, and benefits. |
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A
sustained high level of organizational stress. |
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Lack of
controls in hiring and promotion. |
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Tolerance
of confrontive or work avoidance behaviors. |
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Dysfunctional work relationships among managers and employees. |
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Encouragement of pathological workplace behaviors. |
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Dysfunctional work teams. |
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Inattention to workplace safety. |
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Continual
crisis management. |
From the book:
Behavioral Risk Management: How to Avoid
Preventable Losses from Mental Health Problems in the Workplace
by Rudy
Yandrick
San Francisco:
Jossey-Bass Publishers, 1996
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