Feature Article
 

Power of Dads
 

E. Carol Webster, Ph.D. 
Copyright ©  2011
 

Dads have power. Traditionally valued in our society for their financial support of their families, it's easy to overlook the fact that you have great emotional influence on the lives of your spouse, children and extended family too. Use your power to enrich the lives of those around you.

Your career is important – no question about this. But your family is important too, so make time to share yourself, your insights and thoughts with them. Many guys, especially those who are younger, try hard to make it home to have dinner with their kids or to drive them to afterschool events. Good for you. But your kids complain that you’re checking email at the dinner table or talking on your cell phone – so your body is present, but you are not. In this 24/7 work cycle, it’s easy to feel like the world will come to an end if you don’t respond to every work demand immediately, but what greater priority is there than the care and well-being of your kids? Give them the time and attention they need. You can always get back to the work stuff once you’ve tucked them into bed.

While your mate is emotionally self-sufficient, they need you too. Don’t neglect them. Your wisdom, humor, and affection does a lot to sustain them, and they miss your impact when you’re physically or emotionally absent. It may sound corny, but “date nights” and “snuggle mornings” are valued because you give your undivided attention during these times and are loved and cherished for your support, soothing reassurance, and knack for bottom-line problem-solving. And this time is restorative for you too!

Having said all the above about the power of your influence upon others, it’s important to take time for yourself. You must regroup and refuel, so be insistent upon your need for time to yourself. This may be used to exercise, count the clouds in the sky, or hang out with your buddies, but it needs to be time without others nipping at your heels or clinging to your knee caps. This will revitalize your physical and emotional reserves, so don’t feel guilty about it – it’s a must. Guard this time vigorously.

Dads have great power and you deserve to be celebrated for all you do. Continue to work hard in building or managing your career, but enrich the lives of those you love by sharing yourself with them.