Feature Article
Get Sweetheart
Treatment this Valentine’s Day
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Copyright © 2011
Valentine’s Day is a time of joy for many, but can
stir up great angst for others. If you‘re stuck in an inattentive
relationship or are settling for less in casual dating, vow to expect more
for yourself this year.
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Speak
Up |
If you get neglected year after year on
Valentine’s Day or other special occasions, say something about it. It’s
okay to expect a gift or special show of affection at these times, so stop
stewing in silence and make your feelings known. Even on the tightest
budget, it’s possible for couples to share small tokens of affection. But no
one can read your mind. Tell your mate what you like and how the day can be
made special for you.
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Treat
Yourself |
When your words keep falling on deaf ears, it’s
time to make the day special for yourself. This is especially important for
singles whose dating relationships may not be firmly established. Get
together with friends, make plans that you all can enjoy and that enable you
to embrace the spirit of the day. And, while that special gift would feel
better coming from one who’s expressing their love or fondness for you –
don’t sweat it – get it for yourself!
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Re-evaluate
Your Relationship |
If time and time again you have to nag about being
treated special or have to keep doing it all for yourself, it’s time to take
a hard look at why you’re still in this relationship. You deserve a partner
who is attentive and responsive to your needs, and who truly understands the
reciprocal nature of expressing appreciation for the joy you bring to each
other’s lives. This doesn’t mean they have to give you everything you want,
but it does mean putting in the extra time and effort now and then to do the
little extras that make you feel adored.
Notwithstanding all the hype and materialism
surrounding Valentine’s Day, it’s a great time for you and your mate to
celebrate each other. Don’t accept short shrift. Expect the “sweetheart”
treatment you deserve!
