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Success!Ezine
Volume 5 Issue 8-- August 2008
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Feature Article
Making Dreams Happen
E. Carol Webster, Ph.D.
Copyright © 2008
Summer is
a great time to reflect upon your career as you take some time to relax
and refocus. Size up where you’ve been and where you’re headed. This
will keep you from simply drifting along – taking what life doles out,
rather than setting your sights on what you want.
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Visualize
Your Dream
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If you can’t see it, your dream will be difficult to attain. Give it some
life. What’s your ideal work situation? What type of work activities would
make your heart sing? Play it out in your mind’s eye. This will help you see
the many little steps you need to take to get you there.
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Make An Action Plan
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Dreams without action get you nowhere. Make a commitment to get moving. What
do you need to do first? What next? Need more training? Update your resume?
Meet more people? Make your plans specific, set some priorities, and start
chipping away at the most important ones first. Give yourself a deadline, and step
up the pace if you’re lagging as the date nears.
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Evaluate Your Progress
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Size up how well you’re doing as your deadlines come and go. Give yourself
a slap if you’re all talk and no action. You have the power to change this
pattern of negative behavior, so hold yourself accountable if you’re not
accomplishing what you said you’d do. Accept that you like dreaming but
aren’t really ready to put in the work required to make things happen. Stop
fooling yourself and put your energies into something else. But if you’ve
taken some steps but just can’t seem to get it together on your
own, get some help. Use your success entourage, your support network --
family members, friends, colleagues, mentors, coaches, therapists. Let them
know what you’re trying to accomplish -- and don’t forget to include your
timelines. By letting others in on your dreams, they can make it their
business to help you. Yes, this puts pressure on you, but this may be just
what you need to take yourself to the next level. So don’t balk when they
nag you to get moving. Listen to their suggestions and recommendations.
Force yourself to walk through the doors they open for you. You may be
surprised to find that things start happening before you know it.
Many people fail to grow in their careers because they haven’t clearly
identified what they need to do to make their dreams a reality. That’s fine
if you’re just musing but essentially are comfortable where you are.
But if you want to reach higher, if you feel there is more that you can
accomplish, give those dreams some substance and go for it!
About the Author:
Dr. E. Carol Webster is a clinical psychologist and speaker in consulting practice in Fort
Lauderdale, FL and is author of
Success Management: How to
Get to the Top and Keep Your Sanity Once You Get There
and The Fear of Success:
Stop It From Stopping You!
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Ask Dr. Webster...
Dear Dr. Webster: I’m trying to bounce back from a career
failure but keep getting sidetracked by all kinds of distractions in my
personal life. I’m smart enough to know that I’m allowing these things to
occupy my time, but I can’t seem to stop myself. Am I a lost cause?
-- Down and Out
Dear Down and Out: No you’re not a lost cause. You’re afraid. Who
wouldn’t be? It’s a bummer to fail, but those who are emotionally resilient
recover just fine, so you can too. But you have to help yourself to do so.
Start by understanding that a failure doesn’t make you
a failure. Also, take some comfort in learning from the experiences what
you’re good at what you’re not. There’s always benefit to
that.
But now it’s time to take a deep breath and try again. Take stock of your
greatest interests and strengths and head that way. Hiding out won’t work.
Low self-esteem caused by failure will cause you to dwell well beneath your
capabilities and will make you feel even less good about yourself in the
long run. So regain your focus, resist the immediate gratification of the
distractions, and get back in the saddle. The niche that’s right for you is
out there. Go find it!
--Dr. Webster
Got a Question?
Ask Dr. Webster
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Success Motivator
You can’t just sit there and wait for people to give you that golden
dream, you’ve got to get out there and make it happen for yourself.
-- Diana Ross
Success Tip
Become Famous For Bringing Home the Bear
A lot of organizations have the same attitude. If you are young and
unaccomplished, no one wants to hear from you—unless, of course you become a
starter in one of three ways:
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By
offering such incredible wisdom, skill, ideas, or connections that
the higher-ups need you immediately in a consigliere role |
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By being the boss’s kid or in-law
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By the most likely route—selling your way into people’s notice. |
If you are generating a lot of revenue for an organization, the people in
charge simply have to listen to you.
You are also less likely to be fired or laid off if you are a hunter. That’s
why there are so many obnoxious salespeople in the world…none of this means
that you cannot rise to the upper ranks of your organization from the
club-inventing or meat-weighing side of the business. But in that case,
you’ll have to become skilled at getting the people who work for you
to bring home the bear.
From the book:
Career Warfare
by David D'Alessandro
McGraw-Hill, New York, 2004
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